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When I found out I was pregnant, I was so devastated. I was crying, like I couldn't really talk.

It was maybe two or three weeks before college orientation, when I was 17. It took about five seconds to know I wanted an abortion.

Going to college was a big deal for me because I don鈥檛 think anyone in my family has gone to a big university. I wanted to be an engineer, and I knew that if I got pregnant then I would have to give that up. I didn鈥檛 want to go through what my mom did, having to work two jobs while going to school to support her kids. I saw firsthand how difficult it was for her to go through all of that, and I knew I didn鈥檛 want that for myself. So for me, there was no option. I knew what kind of future I wanted, and I knew I had to get an abortion to get there. And I don鈥檛 feel bad about it.

My problem was that I didn鈥檛 know how to go about getting the abortion. My first thought was, 鈥榠s it even legal?鈥� But I learned that it鈥檚 not that simple. Even when abortion is legal, there are still so many barriers that get in the way of getting that procedure and getting health care. The biggest obstacle for me was that I was a minor, and in Texas, minors have to get parental consent to have an abortion. And I did not want to have that conversation with my family, because my mom's really strict and my dad is religious.

Luckily, my partner was really supportive and helped me research the options. That鈥檚 how I learned about a process called 鈥渏udicial bypass,鈥� which minors have to go through to get an abortion without parental consent. Basically, it's a really long, purposefully confusing process where you have to beg a judge to get an abortion. They ask you invasive questions like, 鈥淲hy aren鈥檛 you getting permission from your parents? Why did you even get pregnant?鈥� It鈥檚 a scary process for a young person, especially a minor, to go through. Going to that courthouse made me feel like what I was doing was wrong. No other minor should have to feel that they're wrong for asking for an abortion. Abortion is health care.

Through our research, we were connected to an organization called , which has a text hotline that was really helpful to me, because at the time, I was so devastated I couldn鈥檛 talk to anybody. It was nice to have the option to message them and ask what to do and what are the next steps. With their help, I was able to get through the complex, difficult process of judicial bypass.

When I had my abortion, I felt like I had no one to confide in. Now, I鈥檓 able to be that person for friends or others who are facing the same decision. When any of my friends have an issue, when they or someone in their family gets pregnant, they come to me, and I鈥檓 glad it helps to share my story.

I think about how grateful I am to have had that abortion every day. I think about it in the shower. I think about it at school. I think about it in the car. I wouldn't be in the space I am today if it wasn鈥檛 for my abortion. The big thing I was worried about was that I wouldn't make it to college. Now I鈥檓 at school and doing what I had planned to do with my life instead of going through with a forced pregnancy.

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